We’ve all been there. Our first loves, the ones we thought were it. They were the one. But sadly, we were wrong. They did us wrong, they hurt us, they weren’t who we thought they were – they turned out to be someone completely different. A person you didn’t recognize and didn’t want to spend your life with. Guess what? That’s OK. Unfortunately, it happens. Some people aren’t meant to be permanent people in your life, some were strictly made for a season. I feel your pain, but I’m here to tell you that it is OK to fall out of love. It’s OK to realize that the person who you originally fell in love with isn’t the person who you have been waking up next to for the past few months. They changed, and now so have you.
They won you over and made you feel like royalty, they made you see life in a new way. You had good times and you had bad. But you were the happiest that you have ever been and it consumed you. Then it started to go in a direction that you never expected. They started to be sketchy, do things behind your back and started to truly treat you like garbage. Or maybe nothing bad really ever happened, you guys just grew apart. Either way, you started to fall out of love with them. You never saw it coming.
Falling out of love is almost easier than falling in love with someone. You want to forget them and act like they never existed and remove them from your memories – but it’s not that easy. What I can tell you, though, is that it’s all going to be OK. You’ll make it and you’ll be even happier once you remove yourself from that situation. It’s for the best but you won’t see that while you are still consumed by this toxic relationship.
I never thought I would fall out of love with the love of my life. I wanted to marry him, spend every waking moment with him and raise a family with him. But low and behold, that was not in the stars for us. Things got ugly and I tried harder than ever to make them go back to the way they were before, but it doesn’t work that way. People change and become someone you don’t even recognize. Like I said, some people are strictly seasonal. It sucks, it’s not easy to grasp or get over but it will all make sense one day.
Once someone has walked out of your life, you will see the purpose that they served. They came into your life to teach you lessons and show you what you truly deserve. Don’t regret the times that you both shared. They were learning experiences and because of them, you grew.
As you’re falling out of love with someone, you’ll think that you won’t ever love again or that you’re not good enough. But that is the exact opposite. You will no longer settle, you won’t take crap from people who refuse to value you and appreciate the things that you do for them. You will become comfortable in your own skin and learn to love yourself like never before. You’ll eventually meet someone who makes you realize that you were doing it wrong all along. They will treat you right, show you that you are worthy of truly being loved and appreciated. No more crying yourself to sleep, no more feeling worthless, no more heartache and arguing. You’ll find happiness, not only with someone else but within yourself and that is when you will have finally fallen out of love with them.
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